Unit 3: love spelled backwards is love

I was thinking of an apt video or movie to review on regarding Relation Formation and Development, and i came across a music video by the 3rd runner up American Idol of season i'm-not-sure-what; one of the recent ones i think, this sexy dude Jason Castro. Oh what would make this dreamboat wanna fall in love again (in which i assume meaning going back to the beginning of a relationship where everything is sweet and it is the 'honeymoon period' all over again)...i could only think of a few theories that would support his decision of doing so. According to Knapp's model of Relational Development, Stages 1-5 are the stages of partners coming together.

The beginning stages 1-2 (Initiating, experimenting) are the stages that presumably make up the 'honeymoon period'. For example, in stage 1- the Initiating period, a couple is cautious and 'safe' towards each other while all the more being self conscious. Obviously at this stage, fighting ot conflicts are distant while infatuation takes over.

In stage 2 (Experimenting), the couple is just starting to get to know each other a little bit more. Similarly, love is in the air; each partner has eyes only for the other; like Jason Castro has mentioned in his song, " We'll lose track of all the time, and we'll tell everyone that we ain't never felt so alive"..awww.

I doubt stage 3 (Intensifying) is part of the "honeymoon period" package. This is because stage 3 is all about increased commitment, awareness and participation. The relationship might still be steady and going strong, but the excitement of getting to know and exploring on another might have already worn off.

What makes stages 1 and 2 the best stages of a relationship is probably the fact that a couple do not know each other well enough for conflicts and problems to arise. Furthermore, unlike stages 4 and 5 (Integrating, Bonding), there are no responsiblities, commitments and obligations involved just yet.

Well...now we know why Jason wants to fall in love again, don't we now?

Chapt 2: M18

"4 men openly molest girl at countdown party but no one helped her"

URL:http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/3552/4136/300696

I don't get the response received from this piece of news; the most common being how 'disgusted' reviewers are by these shameless and bold foreign workers and also questioning as to why no one came to her rescue, but took videos and photographs instead. What is up with the big commotion? Seriously, how do you know that this so called 'molest victim' was not actually ENJOYING it? In my opinion, the reason as to why the crowd did not bother to help her was plainly because she did not look like she needed help at all! In fact, perhaps if anyone tried to help her, she might have had just demanded the person to F off and mind his own business. Why I am so against the tabloids and the reactions from the public?

First of all, guess what they were wearing?(Refer to picture above) The 'victim' was wearing bra and panties- not even a bikini mind you. One of her friends was actually wearing a NUDE G-STRING and bra. Which self-respeciting girl would wear bra and panties out (bad enough), what more translucent ones, even to a beach party??

The picture below is proof that the girl was not in any sort of dicomfort and was enjoying herself. Check out where she gleefully slipped her hand into. Through nonverbal interpretation, it seems to me that the 'victim' was enjoying herself so much that she had to touch herself. If you were an onlooker, would you have felt the need to pull this girl off the podium or stop the guys?

Does it look like the girl is distressed in any way?



Gollee. Posing for the camera. Obviously enjoying the attention.

Another thing that i can't stand is the riles of blame aimed at the foreign workers who 'molested' her. If it were a caucasian guy who were to grope her from the back, would it still be a case of molest? Wouldn't it simply look like both of them were having fun? In actual fact, there was a caucasian guy who gyrated her and her friend from behind.
No one commented anything about that.Racism much?

So i concluded that, all this fuss is just a bad interpretation of the whole situation. Most people perceive or have a stereotyped view of foreign workers; perverse, always having bad intentions,etc. Singaporeans are so stereotyped about foreign workers that they don't even look at both sides of the story before coming to a conclusion.

Also, in terms of nonverbal communication, people have very biased thinking of a situation and tend to judge through artifacts.

Seeing a foreign worker groping a skimpy and joyful looking girl = MOLEST

Seeing a caucasian groping a skimpy joyful looking girl = KINKY

Humans can't get any more racist than this can they? People are so biased that they are totally oblivious to the nonverbal signals that the 'victim' is sending out. After reading this entry,what do you think? Do you still think she was raped and required help?